"I'm never going to make it. My life is a failure. Who would ever date someone like me?" Hold on a minute. Stop talk to yourself this way! It is self defeating and completely untrue. How do I know???? These have been my exact thoughts and my exact words (to myself) during some of the hardest and lonliest times of my life.
We are our own worst enemies. We brutalize ourselves with our words, and degrade the value of our existence with these type of thoughts. When we speak to ourselves this way, we feel absolutely horrible. Fact of the matter is, after so long.......we believe what we say to ourselves.
We need to stop being our own worst enemies, and start being our own best friends. We need to speak to ourselves positively. We need to think healthier thoughts consciously so that we can start conjuring up healthier thoughts subconsciously. After all, we eventually believe our words and our thoughts......positive or negative.
Our words are our weapons. They can be used to better things or to worsen them. It is completely up to us. Will we befriend ourselves, or will we live a life of internal struggle and conflict? We can be our own best friends or our own worst enemies. The choice is ours! Take care everyone!!!
See you next time!!!
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It's pretty interesting that you have blogged this today. I go through periods of feeling low due to my thoughts (I am well-versed in cognitive-behaviour therapies and theories and know the root of my problems!) and just the last few days I have been thinking along the lines of "I'm going to be all alone for the rest of my life...no one will ever want to date me" as well as other financial stressors. I have been trying hard to challenge these negative thoughts and come up with more helpful and healthier thoughts. Sometimes it can be hard though. But at the end, you are right --- we are our own worst enemies. No one is our worst critic than ourselves.
ReplyDeleteHonestly, I think a lot of people go through periods like this. We can't all be upbeat all the time....especially not behind closed doors. I think it's just part of being human. That being said, it really is up to us to create better ways of thinking and speaking to dig ourselves out of these emotional ditches that we bury ourselves in sometimes. Oh, and as for your dating situation....it will work out. Anyone as intelligent as yourself will eventually be greatly appretiated by someone equally deserving. It just might take a little longer than those who have mastered the art of small talk. Take care!
ReplyDeleteOf course, a large part of constant self recrimination is the media which makes us feel insufficient throught most of our lives!
ReplyDeleteThere is no doubt that the media causes the masses to feel insecure and insufficient on a daily basis. They take a small percentage of individuals, glamorize them unrealistically at times, and hold these up as new standards for the new American(if not global) ideal. Very confusing.....especially for our youth and those in periods of doubt and transition. Great comment!
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