Life is often a series of ups and downs. Rarely do we live for several months at a time in a state of stability, equilibrium, or homeostasis. There is always something around us that is changing.....no matter how hard we try to keep solid habits or routines.
So what is one to do when a monkey wrench gets tossed into their gears? Well, I'll start off with a very generic, but factual answer : I guess that all depends on who we're talking about. Here's why......... For some individuals, going with the flow of things is very easy. Their personalities are very flexible, and they can adapt to most situations without the batting of an eyelash. This is either because this is who they are genetically, or it is because they have been through so much change and uncertainty growing up, that not much ruffles their feathers anymore.
If you fall into the previous category, the rest of this article may not help you out....but keep reading, because it may help you in assisting someone who's coping mechanisms to change are completely opposite your own. Now, if you are a creature of habit, a person of extreme routine, an anxiety stricken individual, or one who just does not like being thrown a curveball, you fall into my second category. You have a hard time dealing with change. Don't worry. I've got a few good pointers coming your way.
Okay.....before I start handing out free advice, get out a pen and a piece of paper. All set? Good! We need to start out by addressing one basic question(yes, you must write down the question and a thorough answer)...... "Why am I upset or disturbed by change?" or "Why am I so afraid of change?" Once you have your answer or answers, you will have a lot of insight into your own mind that you probably did not have before. I know writing things out can be tedious, but the results are priceless. I first learned this technique while reading a self-help book called "Living the Truth" by Dr. Keith Ablow. I have practiced using this technique multiple times since, and have been amazed at what I have discovered about myself and others. With that being said, there are a few tips that I am going to share with you to make dealing with change a little easier until you get to the root of your issue(which most likely stems from an issue or a time many, many years in your past).
1. Turn fearful or negative thoughts of change into positve thoughts of what is to come(there is always a sliver lining to things.....even if it is not apparent initially)
2.Realize that it is always the times that we step outside our comfort zones that we grow
3.Don't focus on the past as you are moving forward. Let there be a natural evolution to things. Hanging on will only hinder you and hold you back.
4.Realize that your initial reaction to change related stressors may not always be positive, but it is how you learn to deal with these stressors and harness these intense reactions that will propel you forward.
5.Take things slow. Do not make all of your changes at once. Start with small gradual changes, and ease your way into the bigger ones.
Bonus Tip: Watch "Yes, Man" with Jim Carrey.
Okay guys, the ball is in your court now. It's time to move forward and it's time to be brave. It is time to deal with change. You now have the tools, so get to work. You can do it! Take care everyone!
See you next time!!!