Some people have reasonable standards for themselves.....others expect themselves to be perfect. Oftentimes, those with perfectionistic tendencies have dealt with parents or peers who have told them that they are not good enough or not doing enough somewhere along the way(directly or indirectly). "I'll do better next time" ,"I can't let so and so down", or "I have to live up to this person's standards" are examples of comments that many of you perfectionists out there probably started making to yourself during childhood or adolescent years. Eventually, these comments drove you to master a hobby or two, or to even become successful in your chosen career.
What else did these comments do? They changed the way you looked at yourself and the way you looked at others. You would never be good enough again and neither would anyone else. You would forever see flaws. "This could be better", "They could be better", etc, etc, etc. Perfectionism damaged your self worth, and the worth of others around you. Now, when you look in the mirror, you can no longer stop to smell the roses. Why? Because even your greatest achievements aren't that good to you or at least "they could be better". It's almost as if you can still hear the voices of your parents or your peers in your head....only now the voice you hear is your own.
Well, here's a newsflash for you: You are good enough. Your crowning achievements are good enough.....and you should be damn proud! While perfectionism has been a great motivating force that has catapulted you forward in your life, it is important to accept the fact that fear of something or someone made you the perfectionist that you are. Once you accept that, the cycle may then start being broken down and eventually reversed. This is usually a slow process, but the rewards are well worth the time and effort invested.
Take care everyone!
I'll see you next time!!!
***Bonus tip for the perfectionist: try to read this posting again without correcting all of my grammatical errors and punctuation mistakes as you go*******