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Tuesday, September 1, 2009

The Power of a Compliment

The human mind is strong, and the human spirit is stronger ...... but more times than not, a strong spirit and a strong mind are accompanied by a fragile ego. No matter how good our poker faces are in the presence of proper company, behind closed doors we lie devoid of all of our emotional clothing and exposed in only the most honest of ways. We need assurance, reassurance, love, friendship, and desire nothing more than........a sincere compliment.

We as humans take in so much these days. We see so many people with beauty, wealth, power and influence that we often feel inadequate.....even if we have college degrees, nice homes, great families, decent cars, good jobs, nice looks......whatever. There will always be something we don't have. And, no matter how greatful we are for what we DO have, we as humans somehow always seem to focus on what is missing. This is where we lose sight of our talents, our grace, our beauty, our stability......all kinds of wonderful things. That is.......until someone pays us a compliment.

I don't think I can stress this enough. The power of a compliment can really go a long way. How many times have you felt unattractive or undesirable for weeks or months at a time, then all of a sudden the cashier at the grocery store tells you how cute you are? After not hearing this in months, this really makes your day. It doesn't matter that he or she is completely unattractive themselves. It's just really nice to hear. It makes us feel good. This may not be the perfect example that tailors to you or your life, but I'm sure that from reading this one example, most of you can draw a pretty close parallel.

So.......whatever it was that someone last said to you that really made your day(and it may have been quite a while ago), remember what that felt like. It felt pretty good didn't it? Of course. Your goal is to find at least one friend and one stranger, and pay them a compliment....even if it seems like it is from out of left field. Some may respond positively, and some may not know how to respond, so they may put up some walls at first. But.......when you walk away after complimenting this individual,showing them that there was truly nothing in it for you(no strings attached), it will sink in......big time. It will make their day. Post some comments on here and let me know what compliments have made your day, or what you have said to make others happy. Take care everyone!

See you next time!!!


  1. Your point of view is extremely refreshing--and very true! The world would be a much happier place if everyone could take into account another's feelings.

    I am happy to find a kindred spirit, and the best of luck to you in your blog.

  2. Hey,
    Thank you so much for your post. I always enjoy intelligent and hearfelt comments like the one you posted. I'm glad to know that I have at least one kindred spirit out there as well! Thank you once again Incoherentclarity!
    I look forward to hearing from you again soon!

  3. How true and beautifully said. Sometimes even a smile from another person in passing lights up my spirits. I try to do the same and am always warmed by the smile in response.

  4. Thank you very much. I agree. A smile from a stranger can be worth a hundred kind words....maybe more. Thanks for the wonderful contribution! Take care!